Showing posts with label difficult emotions. Show all posts
Showing posts with label difficult emotions. Show all posts

Thursday, August 2, 2012

Reduce anger in your relationships

People with ADHD tend to show his emotions easily. They often have difficulty managing your feelings, especially when dealing with difficult emotions such as anger.

If a person has trouble regulating their moods and their feelings, they can very quickly get frustrated, be moody, irritable, and can be a very unpredictable person to hang.

Difficulty regulating emotions, combined with problems in impulse control, leading to success in some aircraft.

This is of course a lot of stress and hurt feelings in the relationship because of partners / spouses of ADD is often the first victims of the explosions.

Many partners feel walking on eggshells in the relationship, not knowing when the next eruption will occur.

Tips for better management and control of your anger

1.The first step is to recognize that anger is a problem for you. Take responsibility to have this problem. If you're in the pattern of your partner or other debt have fallen for your anger, make a conscious effort to stop. Instead, they sit together with your spouse, if both are in a good mood and open mind and language. The solution to the problem of non-debt, non-judgmental, solution-oriented.

Reactions 2.Angry create feelings of sadness at a time. The offending words or behavior, and rejection can be your partner feel bad for him. Because you really love and this person can feel your pain it twice rotten. Communicate your feelings to your partner. Need to ask forgiveness and to accept forgiveness. Forward with the plan to improve the relationship.

3.Become more conscious of time to communicate with sarcasm. Sarcasm is a way to interact anger and contempt, with others. Understand that unkind comments are harmful and make a conscious effort to express their feelings more appropriately. Speak openly with your partner about it. If your partner has been on the receiving end of sarcasm, he or she will probably have much to say. By pulling the sarcasm in conversation, so bring your partner immediately. Apologize and to continue working for the elimination of sarcastic remarks.

4.Make a list of triggers that tend to compensate for feelings of anger. Be aware of these triggers will help to intervene and stop it before the old their emotions so strong that it the point of no return is reached. Consider the environmental factors that can prevent self-control, such as fatigue, hunger, excessive stimulation, etc.

5.It is also important to be aware of physical signs of anger. Do you tend to tighten the jaw as anger began to bubble? Do you feel your heart beat faster? Is that your own breathing becomes shallow and fast? Is it hot in your face? Do not burn your ears? What are body signals that anger is escalating? If you feel that these responses in your body, they will escape and relax, it's time to signal.

6.Stop and take a deep breath ... or actually take a few slow, deep breaths. Breathe deeply into your belly (not chest), exhale, then all the way until your lungs are empty. Learn and practice relaxation techniques like meditation and delay additional number of ten to help you regain control of their emotions before they become unmanageable.

7.Learn, the feelings that may be the underlying anger may be seen. Sometimes, when we react with anger, there is actually more affected than others to feel emotions such as shame, pain, frustration, disappointment or sadness. Express anger can feel confident that the treatment of difficult emotions, but if we do not these other feelings that remain unresolved and repressed.

8.Sometimes stimulants can contribute to irritability. If you are concerned that this could be a problem for you, ask your doctor.

9.Last but not least, make sure you and your partner are involved in the treatment of their disease. If both know how ADHD can affect your relationship, are more likely to follow through, with all recommended treatments. They are also more likely to develop and implement effective strategies to manage, communicate and interact with each