Showing posts with label socially prescribed perfectionists. Show all posts
Showing posts with label socially prescribed perfectionists. Show all posts

Saturday, July 21, 2012

Are you a perfectionist?

Are you a perfectionist? If so, you think of this feature serves him well?

Your answer probably depends on how you, the perfectionist in your life. According to research published in Psychology Today, there are two types of perfectionists:

Switched have perfectionists are people who hold to strict rules, while a strong motivation to attain perfection and avoid failure. They tend to be in strict self-evaluation to engage. Motivation to achieve high standards, is internal.
Socially prescribed perfectionists: Anyone who believes that other unrealistic expectations about their behavior (and can not live up to that.) Socially prescribed perfectionists are under external pressure to be perfect and I think the others are believed to critically evaluate.

What this means:

If someone is a self-oriented perfectionist who work hard to enjoy. They also show a higher degree of self-control and success. Thus, the quest for higher performance of the work is a good thing, because the realization generates additional embodiment. If perfectionism as a means to continuously improve, without the will march forward, then it is a good thing.

In contrast, socially prescribed perfectionists outside of their own in search of confirmation, the creation of a perceived lack of control. People whose perfectionism will keep trying to please others is based at a higher level of shame, guilt and depression. If a person tries to be "perfect" because of the expectations of others, then for an endless cycle of comparisons with a criterion on which he prepared no control.

Have you ever experienced what others think you should do?

If so, follow these three steps to get back on track and in the high-performance mode.
Step # 1: Stop "shoulding" In and of itself

Treat yourself to a trip to the debt "shall". "I should have known better" is not a healthy way to speak for himself. Rethinking internal dialogue "I have not made a good choice. I did this the next time I'll make an intelligent decision."
Step # 2: Back on track

Focus on your goal: What do you want? 01:59 Identifying tasks to be taken within 24 hours to help you, the new focus to your target.
Step # 3: celebrate small victories for themselves

Perfectionists tend to see things in absolute terms - is not "good enough" until it's perfect. Starting from this point of view creates a longer time, where there is no way to give yourself a pat on the back. Breaking this cycle of "fragmentation" of your project or task into smaller segments. Then, sometimes not, and I applaud your efforts to date. That will do wonders to stir.