The myth of the work or life balance

My family and I were sitting in the living room floor, glued to the TV. Nijkk Wallejnda, Flying Wallertnda was on a tightrope above the Horseshoe Falls, Niagara Falls and took me by surprise. The degree of concentration, preparation, and all other company and another at my feet in a 2-inch cable to go, much less than 1,800 feet above, is astounding.
How surprised and from where I was fascinated by the attention he was able to share my absolute favorite analogy of the most frequently asked question of my clients. Extract corpses.
Mr. Wallenda balance needed to travel about 1800 meters of cable treacherous whirlpool, prevailing winds and moisture. At the end of equilibrium, in which his family was there to welcome and enjoy the performance. Nice story.
If we begin to balance our work and private life to find, the journey is much more dangerous and much more. Slippage and our family and career aspirations, or both could decrease our control, and send us reeling. Experiments of this kind of balance do not end with a loving embrace, and press conference. In fact, often too late.
Because the term and concept, work / life balance, popularity has about 25 years ago saying there was no significant gain in the lives of the people won, they want balance. Do what you can, using his personal life outside of the pole at one end, seems to be the life of another, and keep it perfectly stable illusory. It also seems very attractive.
Think about it ... Imagine that you are our man Nik on the wire. You take the stick and place the work on one side and the rest of his life on the other. The more the pole to a better balance, so we will do about 40 meters long.
Assuming you can actually get to go the center of balance on the wire. At this point you can not even think about what is on each end of the stick, because all his concentration to stay alive! Try to make your job a little closer to you to fall. Want to turn your head and look longingly to your family? No, if you wish to maintain balance.
Steady As You Go ... Always looking ahead, to ensure that your measurements are correct. Focus! Stay focused! You just have to keep forever. Fun, is not it?
The truth about work / life balance is not there. It is a myth that never happen. The concept goes away from too.
First, we must assume that life is static. In order to be a balance, need to have the elements remain constant. In other words, a place to come, and balance to stay, nothing can move later.
No promotion. No family growth or movement. No greater spiritual depth. No improvement in health and challenges. Produced without the participation of the community or new relationships. Static.
Does your life ever again say that? Of course not! And I do not know anyone who really wants to. This is our second point.
The following equilibrium assumption is that you do things you want to be first rate. Would you really want to go anywhere and stay? Nothing imminent or in progress. The same thing over and over again and again ... I do not, and I bet you do not!
Conducted in more than 4,500 interviews in the past 15 years, I have thousands of people who want to "balance" to say hit. However, when I ask them to describe what will your life be like if a balanced look, none of them described the balance.
Whenever you have the same perspective. The people of teachers describe and CEO of the start-millionaire restaurateur mother of all bloggers the life that could never be compensated. I heard from a life of challenge, adventure and variety. Life, moving and shaking all available dynamically. No balancing act here.
With these descriptions, I had the privilege to help these people to take control of their lives, to take over their businesses and future. In describing what she really wanted, everyone realized that it was much more than the balance. That's my challenge and hope that at this time.
Take five minutes and write down what your life would be if they were compensated, as desired. Share a summary of his discovery in the comments and tell me what you think your biggest obstacle to its realization. I look forward to seeing your answers and see where I can help, your next breakthrough.

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unlocking your true self improvement power

When displayed on a specific object, a painting, for example, will not be able to enjoy what is in what is painted and what is wrong with getting it if the paint is only an inch of the face. But when we go a little step, and a clearer view of art. This is how we look. We are so close to the true meaning of to see us. We want to take a step back.
We have reached a point in our lives when we are ready for change and is ready to power for a number of details that can help us unlock our self improvement, but one can be right under our noses, but do not show, however. It is often difficult to demonstrate our goal.
At that time, Anna thinks Carl hates. Tomorrow, Patrick to her and tells her he hates her. Anna stays the same and not what others think, say men and women. The next day, she learns that Kim and John also loves. Anna does not understand the need for self improvement until the entire community hates her, and he is all alone and in emotional pain.
We learn our lessons, if knowledge about the emotional pain. We finally see the warning signs and signals when the points are hard and difficult.
....... When we will see, we want to change your diet? If none of our jeans and shirts with us in the form.
....... When will we stop eating candies and chocolates? When all teeth are rotten?
....... When will we realize you want to quit? If the lungs have gone bad?
....... If we pray and ask for help? If we tell ourselves that we are bankrupt?
The only time most of us to learn more about our performance to improve even without, is when our life or body is missing and falling apart. We believe and think that way simply because we fear change, but change is much more painful, longer ignore us.
Corrections take place, I love it or hate it. At one point or an additional, we all know, several items turn into our lives and most people ultimately the strength to get yourself to unlock improvement. But because the world says, not because our friends are boring, but because of the fact that the punishment do absolutely nothing unbearable.
Because men and women accept not simply a balanced hug. Now you do not have to believe that the intense heat, just before the realization of the desired improvement. Unlocking your self improvement power means unlocking your car out of the cage of thought, she says. "It's just the way I am" That's an excuse for people who are negative and are reluctant to change care.
Jen repeatedly tells everyone who does not have the guts to be groups of individuals. She heard her mother, father, sister, her teacher said the same factors to other men and women. Over the years, is what Jen believes. She believes it is his story. And what happened? Whenever you are in front of a crowd, at his home, school and community that he retire, or tends to escape. Jen believes her story, and he saw again and again when they confronted a group situation.
Jen has to realize that it does not write the history. Instead of having her story as part of an anxious person, you can see and live the thought: I am a confident person and gives me pleasure to mix with friends!
You can not improve on his every word favorite, but if there are problems from a different perspective, perhaps, the likelihood and the full step by step rather than dread the day to benefit until they are fully improved.
3 sessions per week would be at the health club, the result is a healthier life to be. Books to read instead of watch, reality shows on television is to us a much deeper experience. Help to hang out with friends and colleagues to take a step back from work and recreation. And as you enjoy the whole method of unlocking your self improvement power is, you begin to understand that you are having trouble light and fun.

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Leverage the power of the weekly goals

Leveraging the power yours goals

How not to write a novel

Anthony Trollope, Victorian novelist and one of the most prolific writers of all time had a way of structuring a week. He wrote about 50 novels in his life, but spent only a fraction of the time to write that most of us work every week to spend. In addition to writing three times as many novels such as Charles Dickens took a full time job and managed to leave fox hunting a few days apart.

And yes, Trollope was married and had children.

I will not tell you how he did it all for the moment. Instead, suppose you write back to a novel, Trollope, in a minute. So, naturally, want to break your goal down into smaller parts in order to "write a story of 50,000 words." How to do that?
Let's say you decide to go with a daily goal of writing 10 pages. It is quite difficult! But say this for the time being remain. To check the "write 10 pages" at the forefront of today's task list.
Monday to write 10 pages. Tuesday to write 10 pages. Wednesday, something that came with his family, not you write a. Now do what? Revision 20 pages, on Thursday, would be pretty dang hard, so that 10 pages is new.
"Writing 10 pages" is your goal for each day, day after day. No matter whether you have other commitments. Whether you are 10 pages of yesterday or the day before to do the list of things you say and do today.

Now, make this fun ...

Well, as you encourage that? Close to zero, is not it? It is painful, and should write a novel (not all) of the monotony, we're talking about creating an unprecedented amount of artistic expression! So how can you organize your schedule?
One trick is to output in pages per week, not to see pages per day. Let's say you pull 40 pages, which is quite manageable. You want 10 pages per day, 4 days a week. The other days are for rest, recharge, and the care of other obligations. Let's see how it goes.
Sunday, October pages. Buena. Monday, October pages. You started halfway to your destination, and a week! Tuesday and Wednesday, no. There were other things. But, you see, you go on Thursday and Friday, you need to know which pages on the weekend after all. And the nail. The week has passed and the 40 pages, the great American novel of the 21st Century written. Pick up Saturday!
In fact, this is how Anthony Trollope wrote 49 novels in 35 years. Ten pages a day, four days per week.

Bozo buckets = much better than the right heavy organization chart

Introduction: Goals Weekly

Every day you make a list of things to do than to see the half of it slipped into the next day and the next ... I think a bad way to live. The structure of the day are things that I did yesterday. Paper, the same sad duties.
Keep lists of daily tasks is the upper limit of their planning. Instead, try to create weekly goals.

A week on the task list is similar to the first day. It is working on it, and when they are ready to hit. What is the difference here?

It depends on what you do in a week to one day. A week is thinking big. Broader goals and plans. And you are for two things:

The main goals in life
Their relations

Now I'm not going to cover what your goals in life, here (see this article for ideas, full disclosure, I wrote it). But here are some questions you can to give you a good idea of ​​their goals and some sample answers.



Create what you want? A poem. A painting. House of Representatives. Family. Companies. A family business. Bar Association. Restaurant. Not for profit. Fiction.

Where to go? India. Mexico. A concert by the Rolling Stones. The bullfight. New York City. Overseas, alone. Every major league stadium.

Who does not it? A mother. A father. A grandfather. I liked it. A good friend. Tattooed. A saint. A ghost. Amateur genealogist. CEO. Vigneron. Someone who is a hero. Mayor. His own boss.

What do you want to achieve? A marathon. No criminal. Graduate School. Kilimanjaro. The Great American Road Trip. Dip in the Mediterranean. Run to the Eiffel Tower. Be a film extra. Obama shakes hands with.

What do you want to learn? Arabic. The Constellations. Countries around the world. Every day something new. Murray Thai. Thai. Thai cuisine. Ruby on Rails. Patience.

What do you want to stop? Smoking. Drugs. Drinking. An eating disorder. Sugar production. His bored. Nail biting. Shy. Doubt. Soda. Procrastination.

The important part is the climb up the pieces that can be completed within a week. The people could do this in many ways, but here's what worked for me:

Start small. Trollope aims not write 10 pages every day, your goal for him was more modest. You will quickly learn how to do it in a week, and is probably not as much as you might think when you start to make these goals. But it does not matter, you will soon find out.
New 4.2 Goals per week. One of the goals of a week is fine, if large, urgent and important. However, this means five or more goals you are likely to do things, too small or unimportant to the list of weekly goal. These are the big rocks "of his life. Choose a little more important than the weekly list, and really with the rest when you can.
Is it enough to feel like success? One of the best parts of weekly goals and is felt by all, he had a good week. Ask yourself: "If I can achieve these things, I feel the week was a success?". If so, you're good to go.



So your wish is a place for the goals of the week, and while this is a good start, a person's life, the only of himself. This leads to relationships.

They are (essentially) their relationships

"There are many kinds of success in life is worth it," wrote Teddy Roosevelt, based on the special as "a successful businessman, the man or the train or a farmer or a lawyer or a successful doctor, or a writer, or the President to kill a man or a ranch, or the colonel of a regiment of combat, or grizzly bears and wolves. "
He should know. Is almost entirely been one of them.

But as a father, he said, "makes all other forms of success and achievement lose their importance by comparison."
Even when planning your weekly goals, remember their relationship. They have many things you can do with your time, and many things to work. But there are many people playing different roles: mother's father, mentor, godfather, uncle, employees, managers, players, and so on.
When focusing on the idea that leads to the daily tasks, it is very difficult to govern this relationship. Why? Since it is impossible to adapt to all relationships in a day. Being a parent is simply a full-time employment only, and is in addition to being a full time employee and who is not even close to all roles. How can we try to cram them all into your schedule?
Steven Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, says he does not see the list every day too. Instead, try another role to play within a week. Could be Sunday "Family Day". On Friday, you're with friends. Tuesday is to call another friend, and Wednesday you can get an e-mail to the grandparents. One day is not enough time to wear all the hats we wear. A week is a lot closer.
So make a list of all lead hats, should all the important relationships in which you need to play a role. And then decide what is important to do in the next week for this role.
Who = Who are you to yourself or others that you


And then he quotes.
Such top-down planning has changed my life for the better.

What are the goals for me every week

Sunday is the day of my quiet week. But not only beautiful things and thinking of going to church, toward the mountains for a walk or go out with friends, etc. But Sunday is also my agent, "weeks of planning days." I enjoy spending time do not worry about meeting or something. Instead, it is time to reflect on the weeks ahead, behind and want to do what I can do and be.
And if successful in the next 6 days, then I fall into bed Saturday to get everything he wanted for the week. It's time to relax! When I wake up on Sunday, I will feel good.
Here is my system:

Think of my main goals on Sunday
A small break, I want to achieve certain tasks for the week
Write goals in a score of 3-4 3 x 5 card
Glue the card footnote on my computer screen
When I reach a goal, remove
At the end of the week, a record in my diary that the targets were not achieved, and how you might do better next time, if I missed something



And then I'll start again, registration certificate of the week after the top note. The interesting fact is that they begin to collect cards. To do this, and finally a few months, you have a whole series of them for small and medium-sized tasks, most of which (I hope) you did. And you know what? It feels really great.

The objectives of this week glued to my screen with a bunch of old goals behind it.



If you plan to start your week without doing major projects and supporting First things first, you start really, really matters. Over the last six months, I have to work on weekly goals of a muse, and start writing my own blog plan, and a trip to the mountain. Kilimanjaro, and finished reading the entire Bible.
In short, it was the most productive six months of my life and I'm excited to see what happens in the coming years. What would you do in the situation in six months?

Somewhere between life-sized targets and the monotony of daily tasks lists, it is the power of the weekly goals. This is a pretty great time to reflect on the big rocks in your life and relationships, but not so large that it is straightforward to think. If you get all of your goals for the week, it feels like a big success, but if you do not have another chance in a few days.

Many people talk the talk about goals in life. Who has not heard half a dozen friends with the dream of building his own house, have a fabulous vacation, or start a business? But how many of our friends in the end, to do these things, and how is the path of desire have been? "Entrepreneurs" who calls Noah Kagan. Do they not get it. Use the power of the weekly goals, the most important dreams in life to really forge.
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Great management with the management is often crucial for success within an organization. Mufti of leading multinational corporations and local small business and to its qualities leading candidates as a way to motivate, organize, build, with the objectives. To improve a very simple solution for this kind of quality within their executives, managers or supervisors would be nice to get it removed in the training of managers and management.

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How to cure panic disorder quickly and easily

Anxiety disorders are very common today, where many people with anxiety-causing factors in your lifestyle is not really surprising that only one should have too. In fact, most people who have busy schedules to experience these types of disabilities at least once in their lifetime. Even those who don \ 't be found in extreme conditions, also felt extreme panic or fear about small things.

Questions about how people tend to put aside the panic and the best way to get rid of panic once and for all. To understand how this condition can be cured, you should know that with this kind of condition is not something to be ashamed.

Panic attacks are typical of all, although some of the victims could not truly experience the full amount. If your on bass, still do think it's the end, just as clearly an anomaly in the system that could be set to the correct application of methods of healing.

We have cause to think his experience in all situations, we can not handle easily, but for you, these things more intensively than on extreme anxiety attacks. For example, if you have an upcoming interview \ 're worried and thought it would be good, then you are just more prone to panic attacks, that is certainly not a good thing, especially if you are in the interview.

Whatever the case, that you want on it, so you can live a normal life way back. And you need a proven plan and I \ 'm here for a few things that prove to work well!

Everyone tries to offer a product. Drug tests this year, the last tablet, and so on. Well, most of these things as useful as snake oil in the long run. What I \ "I am here is to all the junk that don \ 't cut work.

Okay start, let us. Treatment of anxiety attack that works well, you can treat the whole person. You must balance physically, mentally and emotionally, to get rid of panic attacks.

This amount may surprise you, but begin with physics. The body is really the minds of so many different ways. But most importantly, a healthy body is the foundation of a healthy mind and healthy emotions. I want you to take these simple steps. Try these steps now, before it \ 's too late for you!

If you drink coffee, limit or abandon them entirely. If you drink alcohol, reduce the consumption by 50 percent. Is in relation to your diet, you need more protein and more fruits and vegetables for the production of neurotransmitters. Of course you can not get a healthy brain, not a simple exercise program.

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motivated and successful In your life

It's sunny and sunsets of life. Sunset of life known as the setbacks of life. The evening of life are in life, life is really painful and stressful. However, they are able to live a lifestyle of motivation in the middle of the dark moments of life.

People react differently to hard times. Some people lose their appetite for consumption, drew others. We lost precious lives of people who committed suicide because of pressure from the setbacks of life. Other people respond to difficult times. Stay motivated even when things look bleak and hopeless.

We can not deny the fact that hard times are inevitable. However, we must expect and prepare them to overcome. We have learned in life that the concern is not the case, but the problem is how to address the problem.



Another thing I learned in my daily life, a lifestyle that is often a decision that most of us have to take, to be prompted.

Let me give you 10 tips on the top, you live a life motivated.

First Be reasonable

If you live a life filled with motivation and inspiration, even when the days are dark, you have to realize that there are problems in this life and are usually unexpected want. Be realistic that you can not deny the problem exists. The situation is that many people are in denial when a problem occurs. This causes more problems for the mind and emotions than expected.

If you are realistic, do not blame people in their own frustrations, insecurities, losses, injuries, disappointments and problems. But put your fears and problems and enable people to help you deal with them. Do not shut the door and press the offending items from their harsh words and sharp that complements. Be realistic and say: "I have a problem, I'm frustrated, I'm insecure and I feel so weak, how can you help me?"

Be realistic, be prepared to be everything in a slowing economy be strong and allow a waiting period, well above the current issue or problem. It is the power you need to keep a positive attitude toward the dark clouds of life.

Second Believe in yourself

Believing in yourself means that you can love yourself and accept it. Love and accept your self is the key to a lifestyle motivated. Once you accept yourself and love, you love life and you expect good things in life.

They believe in themselves to understand that you feel that you have within you the potential to succeed in life, regardless of their current situation. Great leaders such as former U.S. President Abraham Lincoln failed many times in life. He could not run a business, who lost his wife, who on several occasions to be President of the United States. But he thought he had the opportunity to have President no matter setbacks and failures. Ultimately, he became one of the many successful presidents of America.

Product confidence and self-confidence self-esteem creates the motivation and inspiration for success. If you you to trust yourself, you can confidently say: "Before Dark is certainly not the light, after the tears, joy, after the failure, it is certainly successful."

Stand back up after difficulties in our lives

Every day we face challenges and difficulties in our lives who have asked me how we overcome them. Sometimes the situation may be somewhat extreme, that we put our heads in the sand like an ostrich by the fear of a predator, which can not avoid dealing with it is.

Needless to say, keep your head in the sand does not remove the problem or the solution of the problem at hand. What we need is to put our challenges. Sometimes this can be a challenge in itself, but the sooner you can retire after he shakes the dust and run over, the sooner we can work together to meet our challenges. Only the real challenge is not the whole issue at hand, you have to with their fears, frustrations, worries and fears to deal before you can challenge it faces.

Each time a step back after being shot and then work to overcome their challenge, they strengthen their resolve and begin to develop. Enables you to opportunities and solutions where before I saw the chaos and confusion to see. Over time, realize that you have been conditioned to be open to solutions and growth opportunities and you can find without looking at the challenges as a "knock-down", but as an opportunity for growth!