leadership and management : working relationships

We are all in social situations or networking events, or even on airplanes, and people ask, "So, tell me about you." Most of us react to this question in the same way - we tags or hooks are.

For me it would be the following: I am a husband and father of two children. I own a business and have for 19 years. I'm a speaker. I am a writer. I blog. I exercise a lot. I train and advise on leadership. (I could go on, but you get the idea.) You can, and probably do the same thing. But these labels on us?

Want to know more about who I am, if I told you that I? Grew up on a farm, and these experiences have a profound sense of growth and opportunity Want to know more about me, if I told you that I have a work ethic to the non-agricultural Midwest and commitment to the family have? I grew up in an entrepreneurial family and went to church on Sunday morning? When the story of how I chose knew Purdue University to attend for college, you will learn many things about me. If I know why I voted in the group for two years did (in part because the football tickets and the opportunity to go to other states and the Indy 500), you should know more about who I am. And if I told you why I am in the middle of the country (after living in California) back chose would say something that I am.

As in the first list could go on, but I think my point is made.

What we do, what we are.

Too often, leaders want, expect or hope, or that the people we know and have a strong relationship with us as their leader, but we really want to know. In fact, as an example, we can not do anyway.

But as a leader, there are some important things to remember.

As a leader / manager / supervisor are among the most important people in their lives. His influence is real. In his view, they have a big impact on your life, happiness, and even content.
Society, especially among the older generation do not really feel that you know about their leaders clearly. After all, you're "one of them".
This barrier, assumed or actual can certainly get in the way of relationships that are built.

These are the realities in which we live and work. And if we want to be highly effective leaders, we must work together to build a close relationship with us - in spite of these realities.

To achieve this, we need to not only overcome these obstacles, but our personal perception. . .

I do not want "friends" at work have.
Have "friends" at work too complicated - I work around or avoid.
I want to be a private person.

For these points, I would say two things - the goal of the leader is not to be to find friends, but it must be maintained through close relationships, and in terms of a private man, get over it.

I'm not saying you can not intimate parts of your life, but I say that if we carry the highest levels, we must be prepared in the past, labels and share with the people who really get.

I know that this may be unnecessary or too intimidating (or even fear). If this is the case, the better.

One of the reasons why you might be intimidating, is that you are not sure your answer to the question "Who am I?" Self again.

So take a little time to understand that. You think. Kept close about your values ​​and what to expect Once you are clear on what you are willing to share and you want to take action. Help people to know who you really are. And remember that people want leaders that real, not perfect. When parties about who you are, because you feel like a leader must keep, remember that it is not possible and not what the people want a leader queue anyway "perfect".

People want with them, even (perhaps especially) connect with their leader. To give them this opportunity, you must be willing to share more about who you are with other people.

While this may put your comfort zone to be placed a little on the way to better relations and more effective leadership.

Fort principle: What you do not, what you are. To be a leader requires knowing considerable self-awareness and self-realization of who you really are - and the desire to share with others.



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