If you know a toddler who may be vivid imagination.
You are born to dream big!
We.
Young children are an example of the pure unalloyed fantasy. Imaginary Friends for simulation, you are able to create to create a new world in which we live.
Create what you want in your life is exactly the same process. You should be able to get the life you want and make you watch a reality.
Unfortunately drowned our creativity and imagination of the noise of the "real" world. Lost in all the news we say: "realistic" and "practical."
When this happens, our colorful imagination. Instead, see how life can be so beautiful, them. Forward to the things that we fear might happen if they do not act logically focus
We may find that we say: "Who am I to do that", "That's a stupid idea", "That will never work."
Although we believe that these ideas are sure to take a chance to keep, in the end we have a life of quiet desperation about all the problems, we want to avoid, care, instead of getting our imagination what we want.
So by your imagination the best place for you, if the child goes about the monster in the closet, use your imagination to make the life you want.
Everything starts with dreams still remains. Here are some ideas.
As you begin to dream
Have a dream - contact your imagination should be fun, and that is an example to ignore where the seriousness of life and let your dreams again. Table creates a dream / vision board for a visual representation of the life you want to build.
Insert images, words and images that inspire you and focus on key goals and ambitions. Insert the card somewhere to see it every day as a reminder to visualize what you want.
Keep a dream journal - How many times during the day, you have a great idea that falls through the cracks because they do not write? Instead of wasting these ideas find a way to capture. There are many applications that you can save to your ideas on the fly. I personally use Ever note, but a work phone.
Enter a dream that comes to mind. If it is a holiday, a creative idea or something I wanted since I was a child notes as to my mind was.
As fear of inspiration - inspiration can be the most powerful emotions for the expansion of our mind. This is the reason that why people love sports, art and amazing feats of nature. If it seems miraculous power and energy that shakes a little to see. It reminds us how special he is in the world.
The universe is creative in nature and made in our imagination. Find inspiration in your life. Search think the seven wonders of the world and their size. I saw the Discovery Channel documentary in Africa in the past month as a unique source of inspiration. you need to Find something to expand your mind.
Enter the beginner's mind - to open a way and inspired the world with new eyes. you need to keep than Zen Buddhism as a "beginner's mind", in which we approach life as a novice and show how little we know. This helps us to see things with an open receptivity. Stopping child and more take. Suppose that the first world, and. In the package you want to be prepared for a break lens shape
Turn fantasy into results
"It's really no secret of our approach. Further ahead, open new doors and doing new things because we are curious. And, curiosity leads us along again. We 're always exploring and experimenting ... We call it MALINGERING, mixing the creative imagination and technical know-how. "-Walt Disney
For those of you left-brains like me, you can "think" I cannot "dreamers" I have to do things!
In the imagination in the results of both the creative and the rational mind is to enable important, but do not want the left brain creativity before throttling.
Allow yourself to dream big breakthrough for the idea. You can always return to the analysis of a specific plan. This is what Walt Disney mentioned in the quote above, and that the minimum viable product begins to do with Eric Ries explores in his book Lean.
Use your imagination to visualize your life you want. Let your imagination, then you create a system plan on the fly and make their ideas.
Sometimes it's the only way our ideas.
The dream is what keeps us alive! Whatever your dreams may be at this point in your life, or get rich, be in love, or make a difference in the world to embrace and enable them to develop naturally. Held a short time before they have a chance to start.
Practical advice to help you become a better person
Wednesday, February 20, 2013
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
Practical advice to help you become a better person
Most people live in the United States are looking for some improvement in several areas of your life. These areas of improvement may vary from one professional staff. This article is full of useful tips to start the development.
Wisdom and modesty are two essential elements of life. There are some things in your life that you can not change. Learn things that are placed on the site and a few life lessons to learn not by those who can can. You limitations helps humble you accept this fact. Use wisdom to learn from the past and make it better in the future.
Are healthy, you can improve your other areas. For example, if you are hungry or thirsty, you need to solve this problem as soon as possible. Meet the needs of your body in this way, you can be sure to keep in the coming years. If you choose to ignore the needs of your body needs, there is a good chance that you have to ignore their wishes.
Think of yourself, and of a special part of you that need to be improved, and put your attention fully on this matter. You have a better chance to make real progress by focusing on a theme, but there are others who also want to address. This method also enables a sustainable improving your posture, because habits formed slowly and deliberately be more permanent.
TIP! It can not be devastating to your ego when you are trying to overcome by the development staff. However, the error is not a bad thing if you learn and gain experience is.
If you take good care of their physical needs, get the most out of your approach to personal development. How simple things like exercise, adequate rest and a proper diet, your energy and make you feel good enough to succeed in your personal growth. Although it sounds easy enough to do, it can get one of the hardest things.
Humility is to have a very important function to improve at work. If you realize how much you really begin to understand not matter, you learn that you need. They have made significant progress in improving themselves once that much to learn and willing to all the new things, experiencing accept.
Employees are strong but not arrogant or conceited. Be critical, but soft in their approach, and do not forget, we have to learn to act, before it can reach. A true leader defends the rights and integrity of the practical virtues, something required of a person, in order to succeed as a leader in each.
You have your top priority, because you can not please everyone. You are responsible for ensuring that you are happy. Although it is important to remember is not to go on the other. Make sure you stay true to yourself can really improve your path to personal development.
TIP! Participation in personal development, you say you want better, you deserve better. Note that you do this for you.
This is a good guide for staff treat everyone with respect, even if you do not really have all that they need. His attitude towards them to talk about you and nothing about them.
Identify obstacles that block your path to success. Some people have a difficult time. To succeed at personal improvement, start by identifying the weakness and targeted for improvements in these areas. Take in each region and measures to improve the way to a better future is a lot smoother.
Observe your progress (or regression) organizes a fence. Try a system with which you can share each goal into small pieces. They find it easier to every single component to reach the achievement of the objective as a whole. You can check your progress through daily planners, or you can create a magazine, especially the attention to your personal development goals.
If you are below their targets, take a moment to step back and determine where you went wrong. Search the Internet for people with similar goals. Notice the difference between the selling and strategies. It is perhaps more realistic information necessary or appropriate in order to achieve success.
TIP! The people in your life should have the same interests. People who think like the provision, while reinforcing positive attitudes.
If you do not take care of yourself so you will not be able to take care of others. It does not matter whether you succeed or not in the way. You should always find the time to rest your body so that you can expand.
Write your own conversation. Write down all your good qualities. Put this list on the wall or take. A step further and record yourself reading your list. Why did you do that?
Instead of displaying trophies, awards and medals, ask others about their performance. Focus on others will help you to recognize the potential of the people around you.
Research and implementation of successful practices of others. Select two or three simple habits and focus on them until they become second nature. It can take up to three weeks, up to buy a new habit, so it's important to keep trying.
TIP! If you want to talk a lot, you may have heard that you are compressing the lips and must hear. This is especially true if you want to improve.
It may
With love may your faith and new energy closer to their personal development goals. Faith can not exist without love, and love can not exist without faith. Enable it to make it a priority to your faith in life. Thus, a living example of that people around you.
Learn the habits that people prone like success, and they are part of your routine. Start by identifying some basic behaviors and focus on needed improvements in a single step at a time, until they are fully integrated into the daily life. It is generally accepted that it takes about three weeks, a habit ingrained in their behavior, so be patient and stick with it.
Create a personal development plan by determining what your personal values. It would not make sense to focus on areas of your life that are working their values contradict. Instead of working on aspects of their lives, they want to improve mesh well with their individual beliefs. This way you can make changes in your professional and personal life with you.
TIP! Unless you are willing to work on your personal goals, you will never be able to grow as a person. You need to change and learn to accept unconditionally.
Remove all unnecessary stress in your life. To avoid stress to try to stay calm in an emergency. Know that things sometimes go wrong when working on a goal to overcome ways around the obstacle instead of feeling defeated, if it seems to find.
For people who are on improving various aspects of their lives, it is often difficult to know, what steps to take to blows. This article offers some advice, but you need to put them into action. Read these tips and do not forget the basics, if you lack the motivation.
learning their external authority
Monday, February 4, 2013
learning their external authority
I think there are two ways to motivate.
It is "internalized external authority."
It creates an authority in your head. Here's what to do. Find out if you are good enough. And, you know, if you're wrong.
Motivation for the use of internalized external authority which embody the voice for a moment. Calculated statements juicy good about your life and yourself, as in: "You have not worked hard enough to better a better education that you get what you get a better deal!"
Then go back to your main car and start working. If it is loose, use your whip outside authority internalized itself in action.
This method actually works. Most people use it in part or another. The problem is that your peace of mind steals necessary to give a state of true inspiration and creativity. It is probably best used in a commercial environment or similar environments are well trained, highly concentrated work is appreciated.
I was born with a natural resistance to this kind of motivation. Personally, I think that what is lost in this way is greater than what you deserve?. In fact, once vowed that I would rather live on the street, this type of course.
Uncoiling car
It is a further possibility. I think a version of the self-directed approach to training / teaching as a lack of education known.
In uncoiling, parents choose not to exercise authority over their children. His belief is that if the children are learning their own decisions ultimately responsible for themselves. This philosophy is justified by the results, available to students grow healthy, happy and good cooperation.
Uncool for you, take this "inner man" and get the freedom to work outside their own borders.
It is not easy to start. You really go through the same process as the children when their parents do suddenly changing conventional uncoiling parenting style.
In these situations, children tend "act" against their former boundaries, until finally solved their own limitations.
For example, if they are still forced to reduce their consumption of television watching television all day.
If they were forced to the amount they eat cake to reduce border, they will eat all the cake you can find.
If they were forced to be nice to your sister be cruel to her sister.
A disaster? But ... wait ...
After a few weeks of the television all day, the child learns that the TV is not very interested in to find a new interest for your time to complete. Maybe start the woodworking to help learning, their lives.
After eating cake and also get sick, they are eating their own limits on the height of the cake. Maybe I'll start eating more vegetables, just to feel healthier.
Pain after her sister to see the consequences of their actions and remorse. They realize that lead to their own internal moral compass away from these things.
Learn to self-regulate
Respond if someone punishment and reward is, you deny their ability to regulate itself. But this power is there, and it is wiser and more sensitive than an external body could be.
We have learned to rely on external authority. Therefore, we have to internalize the voice of external authority. If there is nobody to tell us what to do.
In the silence that voice that must eventually learn to self-regulate. First, you need to do the opposite of what their internalized external authority tells you, and then from his own experience, know where their limits. To learn more, more intellectual sounding is the case, the experience will accompany inside frozen. It's learning how to do that, you do not think you have to experience.
For most people, this process is dominated by laziness. The biggest part of our lives we have the voice of authority external force us internalized from school and work. So, if we do not vote, our first reaction is to do nothing.
It will take some time to go through this phase. How much longer? I cannot say ... It took about three years, but I was running on instinct and turbid only aware of the reasons why I did what I did. I think if you inaction, fully aware and constantly reminded, are not punished for it, and remember that you have the right to have set their own limits of experience, much less time.
His
It is an expression for the sound much better than the "non-action" lie.
Do what you can to capture this moment. Enjoy a minimalist. Go WWOOFing. Go to India or Thailand. Sell your car. The sale of your home. Get a rich woman. Sleep on the streets, if you think it will help. Do what it takes.
Rejecting both authoritative voice internally and externally: the important thing is this. Aside from that, what you want, what you win.
Finally, you will be rewarded with two things.
The first is the idea that money is something to do that you "have" no.
The second will come a little later.
It is a grace, a source of inspiration. You find something to do. But no matter what happens.
It is a motivation that burns in you, and if you do that, you realize that the oil on the fire is endless. This is something I want to do, what to do, and yet a source of financial support, if you want or need it.
The inclusion of one or more of these tips into your daily routine, you will be more likely to keep a state of mind, or even the whole day, that will help you live a more peaceful life. And to minimize or eliminate negative moods, your physical body will have access to the energy they need to stay healthy for life
I have this new phase of life, and I can tell you, life is never so exciting.
Be a leader Merciful: 12 Ways
Thursday, January 31, 2013
Be a leader Merciful: 12 Ways
People follow leaders with strong momentum and ambition. But the 12 Thanksgiving that you have a leader to follow.
The current economic environment requires that people and leaders to intensify aggressive, strong, go ahead and run their businesses and advance their careers. In this powerful Mars success sometimes there is so much attention for his strong and firm, people forget the human side.
Here are 12 pairs of , with their counterparts from grace. I leave it to you to see the combination that works in your world for others and respect as a special kind can found.
A. Trust and empathy
People will follow you if to imply that you know what you do and wherever you go. But not everyone sees your way or you can travel at your own pace. See the path of their vision and help them find their way.
Second Be on time and show forgiveness
Good leaders manage his time and respect for other people's plates. But everyone is too busy or distracted at any given time. Evaluate if you are late, slipping root before the disrespect. Then, click on it and move on.
Third Be proud and humble
You should be proud of their achievements and promote performance. But most admire these leaders, the results speak for themselves, and whose greatest success is the success of his students.
4th Be disciplined and show humanity
Serious and focused discipline that effectively the most jobs. But not everyone can go on and on like a robot. People are people. You need to relax and unwind. Show them that you are having fun. A little humor goes a long way to connect and show his human side.
5th Show gratitude and appreciation
You need to accept openly praised when they were granted. False modesty is not appropriate. Hogging the limelight, but not inspire his followers. Share the limelight and travel. Help everyone to participate and enjoy the benefits of the company.
6th See discretion Be Bold
Great leaders emerge and progress of the action. But not all conflict is a struggle full of resources and heavy artillery. Determine the exact time and energy to the situation, then skillfully applied. You keep the new team, alert and ready to go for the big fights.
7th Be spontaneous and respect
Ready for anything is a virtue, and a strong leader knows how to change things with enthusiasm. But people also get the benefit of a degree of accuracy and predictability. They appreciate the leaders who take the time to view all your options before you to look into the unknown.
8th Process and be considerate
You are successful because you know how they treat their own success. But the people have to follow because they believe that and just say that your way is the right way is not always enough to buy for them in the example. Shows how the decisions you made will have the same positive effect on performance. Note that you sell your life experience is different and help them to understand the correct interpretation.
9th Be strong and show compassion
Most great leaders are nice, not because they are lax. They provide a framework for success, and that the boundaries are clearly marked. In relation to the last barriers unleash hell. But people are inherently good thought. No correction should be addressed with compassion and learning. Please help offenders find their way to happiness and success within or outside your organization.
10th Be prepared to be generous and gratitude
Employees need to constantly give of themselves. They give their time, knowledge, energy, motivation and knowledge. You know that the more you give, the more effective the team is to achieve, and often selfless. But the supporters of giving too. In order to feel good knowing that the team needs a leader shows how the team behind it. A leader has a fair recognition.
11th Be a Restaurant Lounge
Reflective listening is important, but often do officers can get to really know what is expressed. Listening is not always shown by the adoption. Sometimes the answer is no. But directors are to be able to feel the fans simply by having appreciated the opportunity to express their views. Then, to fully buy into the vision and skeptics to commit.
12th Be a leader and demonstrate compliance
In short, the leaders of the most elegant and powerful once who understand a step back and let the trailer reins better person.
save your relationship from depressive breakdown
The current economic environment requires that people and leaders to intensify aggressive, strong, go ahead and run their businesses and advance their careers. In this powerful Mars success sometimes there is so much attention for his strong and firm, people forget the human side.
Here are 12 pairs of , with their counterparts from grace. I leave it to you to see the combination that works in your world for others and respect as a special kind can found.
A. Trust and empathy
People will follow you if to imply that you know what you do and wherever you go. But not everyone sees your way or you can travel at your own pace. See the path of their vision and help them find their way.
Second Be on time and show forgiveness
Good leaders manage his time and respect for other people's plates. But everyone is too busy or distracted at any given time. Evaluate if you are late, slipping root before the disrespect. Then, click on it and move on.
Third Be proud and humble
You should be proud of their achievements and promote performance. But most admire these leaders, the results speak for themselves, and whose greatest success is the success of his students.
4th Be disciplined and show humanity
Serious and focused discipline that effectively the most jobs. But not everyone can go on and on like a robot. People are people. You need to relax and unwind. Show them that you are having fun. A little humor goes a long way to connect and show his human side.
5th Show gratitude and appreciation
You need to accept openly praised when they were granted. False modesty is not appropriate. Hogging the limelight, but not inspire his followers. Share the limelight and travel. Help everyone to participate and enjoy the benefits of the company.
6th See discretion Be Bold
Great leaders emerge and progress of the action. But not all conflict is a struggle full of resources and heavy artillery. Determine the exact time and energy to the situation, then skillfully applied. You keep the new team, alert and ready to go for the big fights.
7th Be spontaneous and respect
Ready for anything is a virtue, and a strong leader knows how to change things with enthusiasm. But people also get the benefit of a degree of accuracy and predictability. They appreciate the leaders who take the time to view all your options before you to look into the unknown.
8th Process and be considerate
You are successful because you know how they treat their own success. But the people have to follow because they believe that and just say that your way is the right way is not always enough to buy for them in the example. Shows how the decisions you made will have the same positive effect on performance. Note that you sell your life experience is different and help them to understand the correct interpretation.
9th Be strong and show compassion
Most great leaders are nice, not because they are lax. They provide a framework for success, and that the boundaries are clearly marked. In relation to the last barriers unleash hell. But people are inherently good thought. No correction should be addressed with compassion and learning. Please help offenders find their way to happiness and success within or outside your organization.
10th Be prepared to be generous and gratitude
Employees need to constantly give of themselves. They give their time, knowledge, energy, motivation and knowledge. You know that the more you give, the more effective the team is to achieve, and often selfless. But the supporters of giving too. In order to feel good knowing that the team needs a leader shows how the team behind it. A leader has a fair recognition.
11th Be a Restaurant Lounge
Reflective listening is important, but often do officers can get to really know what is expressed. Listening is not always shown by the adoption. Sometimes the answer is no. But directors are to be able to feel the fans simply by having appreciated the opportunity to express their views. Then, to fully buy into the vision and skeptics to commit.
12th Be a leader and demonstrate compliance
In short, the leaders of the most elegant and powerful once who understand a step back and let the trailer reins better person.
save your relationship from depressive breakdown
Saturday, January 5, 2013
To work together to save your relationship from depressive breakdown
Relationships can fall apart pretty quickly under the impact of the depressive breakdown. While many couples choose to leave forever depressed, I think it's more common for two people who choose to stay together and try to keep up. If this is the case where you are, you have more chances to earn go for it and eventually restore the relationship.
When I and my wife and I discovered that apparently we suffer the collapse of the depression of the first things you need to do is learn to communicate, to be with each other. If I did not do it, I doubt he could have continued in the last 25 years.
There are methods that can help begin the healing process of the relationship, but they have a lot of practice and commitment from both sides. If you can stay with them, they will help you as it helped.
Note that this will not solve all the problems, they can not cure depression breakdown. However, they can help keep your relationship going while suffering the depressive breakdown partner may need treatment for the disease.
Contact Beyond Words
Great advice he learned to partner depressive breakdown has to do with words. There are countless lists of useful things say things you should not say. The problem is that words can not express what you mean.
Communication is a person's overall presence. When you and your partner's conversation is much more attentive expressions Penn, physical signs, especially his tone and words naked. They move when you try to connect to each other, and both senses dozen changes are on the rise.
In the midst of the depressive breakdown, all signals are used to remove or block different meanings for each of you to spend. The methods we have learned to help us get behind these symbols and understand what we need each other.
It all depends on our cooperation. This is the first step, but we can start with ourselves.
So we go and what we learned.
One.
Help build
You may be able to learn new skills yourself, but you get a large number of difficult moments. Trained counselor or therapist can guide you through the first steps and give you exercises to practice. Good professional can also show the techniques had not heard.
Two.
Make the commitment
It is important that you are committed to working with others over time. This is not something that can be done in 20 minutes a day. Trying to learn to become second nature. Finally, you will also know when and how to use them without asking. But it takes a big commitment and a lot of time and practice.
3.
Find out what causes
One of the best starting point is to analyze what everybody feels and their needs, and identify trigger events sent into a spin. G'niifr describe a quick method to do good loving someone with bipolar disorder. Each one of you says on paper what you feel in the relationship. By acting together, they both get to experience a lot of misconceptions about each person.
Then you can specify the types of events that are the deepest feelings of anger, pain or injury. You can try to estimate what your partner is identified. The point is to be aware of the risk points, so you can try to avoid provoking a confrontation with a loved one to suffer depressive breakdown of your relationship.
4.
Stop hasty judgment
Psychologist Carl Rogers believed that the conflict began our usual judgments. We hear criticism or action committees, making a quick assumption judge and respond. We have worked a long time with a method to stop the process of consciousness through a speedy trial. Appears immediately, but this sequence can be interrupted.
■ Something First seen - heard a statement, to see the expressions on the side, look at your partner. It makes starting the process.
■ according to your brain recognizes what is perception and interpreter. You assume you know what it is supposed to communicate.
■ Then comes an emotional response. If the trigger is sensitive to the context of depression, it is probably negative. You feel angry, hurt, frustrated.
■ You make a judgment. You attacked for no reason. Your partner will not listen, get angry and blame me for something he did not do.
■ Finally, pull back and you're out serious discussion.
All this happens in a split second, even if you think of doing something very complicated. What you can learn to do, after much practice, is to stop the process before making a final decision to launch an attack. Sounds simple, but it is very hard to do: you need to check your understanding with your partner.
You say something like, "This is what I've seen, this is how I interpret that I'm right that's what I wanted to say.?" You can find totally missed the boat -. Alternatively, you may find that you are right, but even if you have read this correctly, you now have the ability to check what's wrong is not. It's amazing how this question can pause and stop the escalation of emotions in a fight.
But remember, as we did, may be necessary to study the system of care. He led us in practice. And agreed to work on this when we get into trouble. We used this basic tool for a long time, but we can easily forget. Even if this happens, however, we also have the model as a reference. There is a good chance that one of us understand what is happening and try to get us back to where we were wrong.
5.
Hear the other side
After failing to stop the burst trial, both can hear others relate to more easily. The most difficult part is to listen without trying to evaluate or judge. There is a strong need to interrupt, criticize, reject - when making quick judgments are trying to account. The best thing is to listen quietly and focus on what your partner says. They describe how they see things, and what you need to understand.
After that, it is useful to reflect what you've heard to prove who really listen to what they say. The sense that she heard and understood is powerful in any relationship. This affirmation of the experience and hope.
6.
Be realistic:
Easy to expect too much too soon each method. You can try it for a while, but they have difficulties to carry out new techniques. This applies to any type of treatment and the whole healing process. The beginning of the Depression changed everything and rush to make things better.
You have to be patient with yourself and Ben partner. Give yourself enough time to learn the new ways of relating to each other.
Public speaking is a phobia overcame it
When I and my wife and I discovered that apparently we suffer the collapse of the depression of the first things you need to do is learn to communicate, to be with each other. If I did not do it, I doubt he could have continued in the last 25 years.
There are methods that can help begin the healing process of the relationship, but they have a lot of practice and commitment from both sides. If you can stay with them, they will help you as it helped.
Note that this will not solve all the problems, they can not cure depression breakdown. However, they can help keep your relationship going while suffering the depressive breakdown partner may need treatment for the disease.
Contact Beyond Words
Great advice he learned to partner depressive breakdown has to do with words. There are countless lists of useful things say things you should not say. The problem is that words can not express what you mean.
Communication is a person's overall presence. When you and your partner's conversation is much more attentive expressions Penn, physical signs, especially his tone and words naked. They move when you try to connect to each other, and both senses dozen changes are on the rise.
In the midst of the depressive breakdown, all signals are used to remove or block different meanings for each of you to spend. The methods we have learned to help us get behind these symbols and understand what we need each other.
It all depends on our cooperation. This is the first step, but we can start with ourselves.
So we go and what we learned.
One.
Help build
You may be able to learn new skills yourself, but you get a large number of difficult moments. Trained counselor or therapist can guide you through the first steps and give you exercises to practice. Good professional can also show the techniques had not heard.
Two.
Make the commitment
It is important that you are committed to working with others over time. This is not something that can be done in 20 minutes a day. Trying to learn to become second nature. Finally, you will also know when and how to use them without asking. But it takes a big commitment and a lot of time and practice.
3.
Find out what causes
One of the best starting point is to analyze what everybody feels and their needs, and identify trigger events sent into a spin. G'niifr describe a quick method to do good loving someone with bipolar disorder. Each one of you says on paper what you feel in the relationship. By acting together, they both get to experience a lot of misconceptions about each person.
Then you can specify the types of events that are the deepest feelings of anger, pain or injury. You can try to estimate what your partner is identified. The point is to be aware of the risk points, so you can try to avoid provoking a confrontation with a loved one to suffer depressive breakdown of your relationship.
4.
Stop hasty judgment
Psychologist Carl Rogers believed that the conflict began our usual judgments. We hear criticism or action committees, making a quick assumption judge and respond. We have worked a long time with a method to stop the process of consciousness through a speedy trial. Appears immediately, but this sequence can be interrupted.
■ Something First seen - heard a statement, to see the expressions on the side, look at your partner. It makes starting the process.
■ according to your brain recognizes what is perception and interpreter. You assume you know what it is supposed to communicate.
■ Then comes an emotional response. If the trigger is sensitive to the context of depression, it is probably negative. You feel angry, hurt, frustrated.
■ You make a judgment. You attacked for no reason. Your partner will not listen, get angry and blame me for something he did not do.
■ Finally, pull back and you're out serious discussion.
All this happens in a split second, even if you think of doing something very complicated. What you can learn to do, after much practice, is to stop the process before making a final decision to launch an attack. Sounds simple, but it is very hard to do: you need to check your understanding with your partner.
You say something like, "This is what I've seen, this is how I interpret that I'm right that's what I wanted to say.?" You can find totally missed the boat -. Alternatively, you may find that you are right, but even if you have read this correctly, you now have the ability to check what's wrong is not. It's amazing how this question can pause and stop the escalation of emotions in a fight.
But remember, as we did, may be necessary to study the system of care. He led us in practice. And agreed to work on this when we get into trouble. We used this basic tool for a long time, but we can easily forget. Even if this happens, however, we also have the model as a reference. There is a good chance that one of us understand what is happening and try to get us back to where we were wrong.
5.
Hear the other side
After failing to stop the burst trial, both can hear others relate to more easily. The most difficult part is to listen without trying to evaluate or judge. There is a strong need to interrupt, criticize, reject - when making quick judgments are trying to account. The best thing is to listen quietly and focus on what your partner says. They describe how they see things, and what you need to understand.
After that, it is useful to reflect what you've heard to prove who really listen to what they say. The sense that she heard and understood is powerful in any relationship. This affirmation of the experience and hope.
6.
Be realistic:
Easy to expect too much too soon each method. You can try it for a while, but they have difficulties to carry out new techniques. This applies to any type of treatment and the whole healing process. The beginning of the Depression changed everything and rush to make things better.
You have to be patient with yourself and Ben partner. Give yourself enough time to learn the new ways of relating to each other.
Public speaking is a phobia overcame it
Thursday, January 3, 2013
Public speaking is a phobia overcame it
Public speaking is a phobia that almost all of us to share. No matter how brave you are, or how eloquent you are in social situations, most of us are faced with the sweat they stage a speech to give our colleagues. This often leads us to forget our words, land lines, stuttering in sentences or just generally appear as a nervous wreck, ironically, the realization of our worst fears. This is unfortunate because public speaking is actually one of the most useful skills you can learn, and if you work in a business or just a student can avoid almost. You have to make a presentation to a small board of directors, taking a class, toasting the groom, or a prestigious award you can trust and speak clearly and some people laugh endless make a positive impression and let people away impressed and agree with your points. Even if you record a video or voice recording, the same principles apply, and you can go up if you do not know how to give a good public speech. Fortunately, there are several improve techniques, methods and tips to remember that can help improve your ability to do just that.
First, you need to calm down. Think of it as a challenge and have a little fun. Make sure you have repeated before the event, so you are as prepared as possible and try himself to panic and distract people talking or watching TV. Get ready to cue cards or a power point screen that can be used to stir his memory Don't Stop writing the script, however, or even try to remember eventually going to read a magazine or in memory and be interesting or entertaining. If you have the freedom to work on points or jokes you think it-ll throw them, it seems much more natural and human and more interesting and entertaining as a result. It also lets you adapt to the public's reaction to add parts if they seem confused or fast forward if a point does not decrease much. You cannot prepare for every eventuality so do not try to rely on your ability to think on your feet and speak coherently from the top of your head that you've managed to do two days of your life!
A sip of alcohol could work to relax, but still drinking too have the opposite effect to make your trip over your words forgetting their lines. For this reason, alone I'd recommend alcohol if you are really in a panic and I cannot appease a different way. Also, make sure that you avoid caffeine as it increases metabolism and heart rate to make you more nervous and edgy. Make sure you get a good night's sleep before early, eat a lot of carbohydrates to feel energetic and awake without caffeine (hot drinks can also tickle the throat). If you happen to have a sore throat (which includes law), try sucking on a cough drop with a little honey and hot water.
You can also improve your confidence through what you wear as fancy dress and wants you to be serious and you should feel like you do. Your audience will also discuss and make you feel more comfortable when. It's sad that people pay more attention to those who are good and even those of us who are longer. So make sure you look your best and do not be shy to wear shoes with a healthy bit higher. And, whatever you do you wear a beautiful headband that will only distract your audience to the point that you do.
At the same time, make sure to avoid his speech bananas or cigarettes. The reason for this, as every good singer knows, is that they leave a thin layer on the vocal cords and therefore affect your speech and clarity. Yogurt can have a similar effect. On the opposite cause and give your vocal cords a rest the day before trying to rub Vics VapoRub on the chest before bedtime. A good night's sleep also relax the vocal cords that clearer and deeper.
Once you're actually on stage, there are more things you can do while you are there to improve their performance. First, make sure you speak slowly when we were nervous automatically talk faster, even if you think that looks like an old cassette or comedy you're in slow motion, you're probably not taken more slowly than normal. Furthermore, it has been demonstrated that people speak slowly think you're smarter and more confident and will sound like your words clearer and deeper at random. If you speak at a slow pace, this also means that you give more time to think between words which makes it easier to improvise or make mistakes.
At the same time, the quality of his voice to improve, tilt your head slightly down. You must be on a raised platform that-ll anyway for the correct position to the public, but at the same time, he will relax your vocal chords that resonate in a lower tone.
The last thing you should consider is what you do with your hands and feet. Baring in mind that beyond what you would normally do in a conversation, you should be able to be much more flamboyant gestures gesture's more radical perspective and public involved. Gestures like this also prevents you from feeling restless (which are harmful and make you nervous to see) and put them in your pockets or swinging slap together.
You can also move around the stage with their feet and make sure to use the space you have and on both sides of the audience (you should also do this by making eye contact, looking at those who cross their arms or imply that sent care). At the same time, however, ensure that they do not polar bears or pedals. And, finally, thank you very much for your audience to listen and say good bye. Good bye indeed!
Live a meaningful life
First, you need to calm down. Think of it as a challenge and have a little fun. Make sure you have repeated before the event, so you are as prepared as possible and try himself to panic and distract people talking or watching TV. Get ready to cue cards or a power point screen that can be used to stir his memory Don't Stop writing the script, however, or even try to remember eventually going to read a magazine or in memory and be interesting or entertaining. If you have the freedom to work on points or jokes you think it-ll throw them, it seems much more natural and human and more interesting and entertaining as a result. It also lets you adapt to the public's reaction to add parts if they seem confused or fast forward if a point does not decrease much. You cannot prepare for every eventuality so do not try to rely on your ability to think on your feet and speak coherently from the top of your head that you've managed to do two days of your life!
A sip of alcohol could work to relax, but still drinking too have the opposite effect to make your trip over your words forgetting their lines. For this reason, alone I'd recommend alcohol if you are really in a panic and I cannot appease a different way. Also, make sure that you avoid caffeine as it increases metabolism and heart rate to make you more nervous and edgy. Make sure you get a good night's sleep before early, eat a lot of carbohydrates to feel energetic and awake without caffeine (hot drinks can also tickle the throat). If you happen to have a sore throat (which includes law), try sucking on a cough drop with a little honey and hot water.
You can also improve your confidence through what you wear as fancy dress and wants you to be serious and you should feel like you do. Your audience will also discuss and make you feel more comfortable when. It's sad that people pay more attention to those who are good and even those of us who are longer. So make sure you look your best and do not be shy to wear shoes with a healthy bit higher. And, whatever you do you wear a beautiful headband that will only distract your audience to the point that you do.
At the same time, make sure to avoid his speech bananas or cigarettes. The reason for this, as every good singer knows, is that they leave a thin layer on the vocal cords and therefore affect your speech and clarity. Yogurt can have a similar effect. On the opposite cause and give your vocal cords a rest the day before trying to rub Vics VapoRub on the chest before bedtime. A good night's sleep also relax the vocal cords that clearer and deeper.
Once you're actually on stage, there are more things you can do while you are there to improve their performance. First, make sure you speak slowly when we were nervous automatically talk faster, even if you think that looks like an old cassette or comedy you're in slow motion, you're probably not taken more slowly than normal. Furthermore, it has been demonstrated that people speak slowly think you're smarter and more confident and will sound like your words clearer and deeper at random. If you speak at a slow pace, this also means that you give more time to think between words which makes it easier to improvise or make mistakes.
At the same time, the quality of his voice to improve, tilt your head slightly down. You must be on a raised platform that-ll anyway for the correct position to the public, but at the same time, he will relax your vocal chords that resonate in a lower tone.
The last thing you should consider is what you do with your hands and feet. Baring in mind that beyond what you would normally do in a conversation, you should be able to be much more flamboyant gestures gesture's more radical perspective and public involved. Gestures like this also prevents you from feeling restless (which are harmful and make you nervous to see) and put them in your pockets or swinging slap together.
You can also move around the stage with their feet and make sure to use the space you have and on both sides of the audience (you should also do this by making eye contact, looking at those who cross their arms or imply that sent care). At the same time, however, ensure that they do not polar bears or pedals. And, finally, thank you very much for your audience to listen and say good bye. Good bye indeed!
Live a meaningful life
Friday, December 28, 2012
Live a meaningful life
surround yourself with people positive
"People have a goal that makes sense is to live our reason. With a goal we can achieve anything."Warren Bennis
Everything you wonder what the "meaning of life" and why are we here and what are we supposed to do with our lives? But if life is not hard to find for your purposes, but it is significant, and get everything you get.
Ask yourself do to stop going to the terrible trauma that terminally ill patients who choose whether or not to continue treatment or to decide between. Those who go. All physical and emotional pain with the hope to overcome decide that his condition improved a little But why suffer all this pain? Because they believe that life is precious, and we want to do everything they could to keep it down.
They are ready to fight so hard to keep his life, I think every one of us must fight hard to find meaning in it, and it makes sense.
Make your life still ahead
A life of "object" does not necessarily mean that we will change the world. No need to do the best job with the highest salary, at home or the best luxury. It is a life that has meaning. It is a life that has meaning. And this can work in a fast-food companies to finance their studies, journalism, or be to stay at home before he can be reached at their workplace. As your life moves forward live a meaningful life.
Be who you want to be
Not a life without regard to the consequences. But do not feel compelled to change their lives for the happiness of the other person. Be honest with yourself that you can live a meaningful life. What would our lives be if we spend decisions based on what others want? Our happiness is not true, it would be the happiness of other people. Therefore continue the career that you like to explore or trasládate the city where you feel belong. Delibera head and follow your heart.
Believe in yourself
You get what you want in life without believing that you can. Have you not afraid to ask or challenge is capable of much more than you think. Do not give up when you make mistakes. Dreams are only possible to stop if we are trying to achieve. So keep the faith in yourself and move forward.
Surround yourself with positive people
Sometimes we believe in ourselves, but not the people around us. Choose to surround yourself. With positive people who support your ambitions, those who believe they can You can not live a meaningful life, if their efforts are constantly thwarted by negative thoughts and people. Spend time with people who deserve your time.
Be kind to others
You can see the world differently the lives of people is different. Appreciate and love the other, let your loved ones how much they care about. Be a great support to others, you will feel much happier inside. You can look at the effect they be surprised at the good fortune.
I believe that everything happens for a reason
Do not waste time thinking about "what if." Instead of things that can be changed at that time to think. Every experience in your life, whether positive or negative happens, so that I learn something. Use this lesson to improve your life. Be proactive about your life is likely on the way to something better.
Choose to be happy
Particularly choose to be happy. We all have pain in our lives, but it's just a matter of finding that it does not define who we are. We can not change what happened, neither the things that people have said, but we can change how we react to it. Be happy with ourselves, we are more likely to live a meaningful life.
Whatever you want to do with your life can bring the effects themselves and the world. The life of every human being has a value, it is just a matter of realizing how we can use this value to make a difference. To live a meaningful life begins today.
imagine what your life would be
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